When talking about a 24/7/365 or 100% submission/slavery relationship, many people think this would imply being in session all the time and therefore, it is unrealistic (if not impossible), but that is very far from being so.
For example, from my experience, a BDSM relationship corresponds to a lifestyle and the way it manifests itself in a couple relationship, so obviously it must be with everything else is required to be a functional Human Being in this society: study, work, family, friends …
In addition, it can (and in my particular case, must), transcend a casual encounter. It implies taking the time to get to know the other person, their life, their preferences, capacities and needs, as in any other type of relationship, to build the meta-consensus from mutual knowledge, no to risk your skin and health out of the blue.
The meta-consensus refers to the implicit consent of the submissive person for the Dom to play and decide freely, having control of the risks assumed in the games that take place within the framework of BDSM relationships.
It implies having talked widely, agreeing on what you want, the limits and the risks, consenting to which ones are acceptable for both parties and which are not, as well as a deep understanding of the couple and their physical and psychological capacities, in order to have the necessary decision criteria … and believe me, I have already had a couple of bad experiences for wanting to run before crawling…
But going back to the topic of 24/7 relationships, they have many ways of expressing themselves outside the scene of a session: using a chastity device, anal plugs, lingerie, checking in at certain times, complying with some spontaneous requests, establishing certain behaviors, to mention some.
There are also others to show even in public, without much problem, for example:
Whenever we are in public, my sub must be aware of my needs, serve me food, drinks and give me whatever I need. This is a very natural way to show submission without going half naked, with heels, a necklace and a foxtail plug…
If someone questions why he serves me (which in this macho society is a fact it will happen), he must defend his position of service and show how he likes it.
If I sit in an armchair in the living room, he very naturally must sit or kneel on the floor next to me and lean my legs.
He should always carry my bags, purses and suitcases.
He must participate in the house cleaning if we are visiting family or friends.
Occasionally he must serve as a driver for Me and my friends.
He must express his position of submission and obedience no matter what other people say, for example commenting in a meeting of friends that he will only drink soda because for he isn’t allowd to drinking beer, and before comments such as «Your woman commands you», «You are domesticated » and others alike, he has to accept it all and say he are happy about it.
And the list could go on…
There are also routines, such as saying hello every day at the time of getting up, always asking for permission before going to sleep, not masturbating or using pornography If the Dómina doesn’t request for or authorize it, keep the body perfectly shaved, he must inform the Mistress every once he has an erection, even if it is involuntary. If living together: bathe the Domina, put her body lotions on her and dress her, be naked in certain periods of time, say «hello» and «goodbye» by kissing the Dómina’s feet, keep a list of hes own mistakes and faults to give it to the Dómina on the weekend, and let her decide the punishment…
In short, the protocol can be filled as much as creativity reaches.
Note this: none of the above practices necessarily imply being in a session, they don’t limit social interaction, study, work, sharing with friends or family, but they are ways of living a relationship 24/7/365.
It’s clear now you haven’t to live in a dungeon to be in a full time BDSM relationship and keep the flame burning, very burning!
Ama Ashtart 